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Downward Spiral of a Teen Mom

Let’s face it; even if your baby daddy is not an immature douchebag and your parents haven’t kicked you to the curb for having unprotected sex, getting pregnant while you are still a teenager is not going to be problem-free. So what of the teens moms, who don’t have a network of family and friends to rely on for support? Their rainbow/unicorn/puppy dog dreams typically shatter much quicker following the birth of their babies. Just ask Amber Portwood. The Indiana mom got pregnant while she was still in high school, but instead of giving birth, completing the credits needed to … Continue reading →

“Teen Mom” Star Avoids Jail

… for now. Proving that you don’t have to reach the age of maturity to become a parent, MTV “Teen Mom” star Amber Portwood is back in the headlines following her arrest for beating on her baby daddy Gary Shirley. The reality TV starlet pleaded guilty earlier this week to two counts of felony domestic battery and showed her two-year-old daughter why she shouldn’t follow in her mama’s footsteps. Thursday’s plea signified a major change in Portwood’s original argument that she was 100 percent innocent. In December, the 21-year-old mother went public decrying her arrest for assaulting Shirley, her on-again, … Continue reading →

Beating Mom Guilt

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Maybe you are already feeling it now that you are pregnant. I’m talking about Mom guilt. It’s a disease I tell you. Every woman that has a child has it at some point or another. And, some women are worse than others, but it seems that it is inescapable. It might already be creeping into your pregnancy. Maybe you are having thoughts like: “Am I eating enough healthy foods?” “I shouldn’t have had that Diet Coke” “I’m gaining too much weight” or “I’m not gaining enough weight!” Whatever the thoughts are, the best way to stop it is by working … Continue reading →

Realistic Splurges

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I recently read an article about things that moms should splurge on. I eagerly read it, I’m always looking for ways to splurge without feeling guilty and breaking the bank. Unfortunately this list was for married moms or at least moms in a better financial position than most single moms. It was great advice but really didn’t apply to me. One of the suggestions was a really nice, all purpose purse. Since Hailey started school my purse is more function than fashion, after all, kids backpacks aren’t cheap and have to be replaced fairly often so there goes the money … Continue reading →

Don’t Do Everything Together

My husband’s kind of a loner. He’s drained by social situations, so if he’s had a long day hanging out with a group of people is the last thing he wants to do. He’s perfectly happy on his own, and if he doesn’t speak to a friend for years he’s totally fine with that. So when he gets together with his friends – all whom live in the area, mind you – two or three times a year to play a tabletop game, I let him be. I’m not terribly interested in the game, though sometimes I think that if … Continue reading →

Score One for the Kids

Since becoming a parent I try very hard not to judge other moms and dads. However, there are some things that I simply cannot reconcile being done to children regardless of circumstances: severe beatings, starvation, mental abuse… and leaving a kid alone in a vehicle. I realize that many, many parents routinely leave their children unattended in vehicles during quick pit stops at stores, the post office, gas station or when picking up older kids at school. I once met a mom who left her 6-month-old strapped in an infant carrier in the back seat of her vehicle while she … Continue reading →

What to Do When You Feel Unmotivated

Often, the work of a home – based professional is enjoyable. They have made a decision to do work that they like from the comfort of their home on a schedule of their choosing. As enjoyable as that may sound, it is not always perfect nor should one expect it to be. No matter how much you love your work, there will be times when you do not feel motivated to do it. Perhaps you feel tired sometimes when it is time to work. That happens all the time over here, as I do most of my work after my … Continue reading →

Life’s Not Fair, Get Over It

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Guilt, guilt, guilt. Sometimes I think I should change my name to include that one word. When I divorced my husband, my daughter’s father, I  had a tremendous amount of guilt. What had I done? How would it affect Hailey? Would this cause her to rebel more as a teenager? If she rebels it will be ALL MY Fault. If she turns to drugs or alcohol, it will be ALL MY FAULT, I tore her family apart. I know I didn’t do it by myself. The destruction of my marriage was a joint venture, my ex husband and I both … Continue reading →

Weird Dreams

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Do you have weird dreams when you’re pregnant? I do. I don’t know why, but with both pregnancies, I seemed to sleep deeper and have more vivid dreams than normal. I am a poor sleeper in general. I always have been, so for me to have dreams on a regular basis, and remember them definitely signifies I am having some issues that I need to work out in my sleep. Think about it. When you find out you’re pregnant, there is such an emotional roller coaster. You’re happy one second, and freaking out the next. You don’t know what kind … Continue reading →

Do I Have Postpartum Depression?

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I didn’t realize that I had postpartum depression until it was over. That’s a scary thought. But, like every first-time Mom, I kind of had the attitude that I would be so in love with my baby that there was no way that I would be depressed! No way. My situation was hard because my husband was in graduate school when we had our first baby. He was working long hours, and took the car with him to travel to his surgery rotation an hour one way. We just had one car. So, all day, Monday through Friday I was … Continue reading →